I recently got banned from a Skool community where I was the leader. I will not promote that community. Good thing I was banned because I don't need drama in my life. What happened resulted from a cumulation of bad decisions and misunderstandings. Here on my blog, nobody will delete my post unless I say so. There was a woman in that group who managed to be an admin. Good for her, but because of that, I became the target of her power trip. She was condescending to me in private messages. She contacted me because I was asking people to give their Instagram in the public chat, which I thought was a good way to connect with others. She reached out to me privately.
She said I was going against the community rules and made sure I understood. I also asked if she could speak to the founder and tell him that exchanging Instagram isn't self-promotion because a community should come together to help each other. (Unless the founder doesn't want people to connect that much and prefers to raise minions.) But I was kind to her, and the way she answered me was condescending. She said it was from a recent conversation she had with other admins. She said, "Read above," and talked to me as if I was rebellious. I was just suggesting, you know. I told her I didn't know they had a conversation, and she said she didn't have to tell me as if she didn't owe me anything and I had to obey her. Whoa, girl! That was twisted. She didn't know who she was talking to, but I stayed cool. I kindly put her back in her place, but I knew she was bad news. You know how girls can be sneaky sometimes.
Here are some screenshots of the conversation with her, where I felt she was totally two-faced.
As a leader, people were opening up to me and telling me that the one who led before me was cheating. At first, I didn't believe it because I liked him. He seemed genuine. The more likes you received, the higher you leveled up. It was a toxic environment, fostering a race for validation. The prize: a plane ticket and front-row seats to 'someone's' shows. I'm competitive, so I loved the challenge. But then I met a special member with a special talent, and I fell in love with her music and her story. I knew she needed that plane ticket more than anybody. I wanted to win for her. Anyway, why would I try to get it for myself? The founder promised to be there for his 'family' and his fans. But he didn't care about me. He never answered my DMs or responded to my posts or liked them, except for one post where I was defending him because other members were trying to invite others into their own community. He copied my post, reposted it, and wrote, "I'm reposting some member's post." Even another member was sad for me that he didn't mention my name. Another one said the founder was probably too busy to even notice me. So I tried not to worry so much about the prize and the founder not caring about my presence and just tried to make new friends. I was in a great group, and I was introducing myself to everyone because I wanted to know everybody. I love people.
What happened next sealed my fate in that community. I don't like it when people are disrespectful. What that girl did to me, she'll do to others.
My new friend, with so much talent, needs a lot of help to promote herself, and I wanted to be that help. She made a song for me. I created a post to make my friend shine. I was so proud of that song. Again, that stupid girl came and wrote on my post that I was spamming because I said in a message, "If you like that song, tag the founder." I responded to her that it wasn't okay for her to do that publicly, and if she did it again, I would report her. I also said she was not the founder of that community. The same day, she also posted on my friend's message, saying she was using AI. That is the biggest insult you can give to an artist. I asked her publicly what her intentions were.
The other admin asked me to calm down. My post was deleted. Her messages saying my friend Anna was AI were deleted.
Then another member told me that the admin girl was helping the previous leader. I didn't believe it, so I wanted to test her.
To make sure we were okay, I wrote her a heartfelt message. I wanted to make sure she understood she had gone too far and that I should have had a better reaction. I was asking for her help to make sure Anna, my friend, could open up to the community because she's special.
At that moment, I was first in the lead. I was working hard to make that community a good place and make sure to get to know people. On the other hand, the guy who everybody thought was cheating was third. To get from third to first place took seven days. Weirdly, right after I wrote to that stupid admin girl, the third-place person became first within three hours without even posting.
Here is the message I wrote to her:
Her response was to make the third place go first. That was her response because she never answered back.
Then I wrote to the other admin, saying I had good reason to believe that the stupid admin girl was cheating to make the other leader win. (I wrote a super respectful message.) Fifteen minutes after that, I got banned. I asked the people who were helping the cheater to come forward. Nobody did because they were all scared to be banned.
I'm still sad about what happened. I don't care about this admin girl. I don't even want to go back to that community. She's not the first to be mean to me, and she won't be the last. I'm sad because the founder knows I'm telling the truth, and he never defended me as I defended him. Now the leader who was first is no longer cheating, nor is the stupid admin girl, because they are too afraid of being banned too.
The founder disappointed me because, out of millions of people, I was a true fan. Even when the world was against him because of so many things that happened to him, I was there defending him. Even a couple of days after being banned, he knows I was telling the truth and never defended me or unbanned me. Even in my last message to the admin girl, I was sure that the founder would try to seek justice in his community. As a result, bad behavior is accepted as long as you don't complain. But hey, you're the one paying for the plane, so it's your money, man.
One of my friends in the community was so outraged by my ban that he got banned too for defending me. If the founder can do this to his most loyal fan, I was wrong to ever believe he truly cares for others. I now see him for who he really is—a bad man, and I was blind to it from the start.
But this isn't the end—it's the beginning of a new chapter for me. From here on, only those who recognize my true worth will have a place in my life. The truth is, we all make mistakes. There were likely moments when I could have spoken differently, and being well-educated, I know when an apology is necessary. But more importantly, I've learned to recognize when I'm in the wrong room—and when it's time to walk away.
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